OP, better keep that shiny new spine and stop accepting this toxic masculinity. They could have killed him with their prank that is so fed up. Recently, I bought a new car which I use everyday and let my mom and stepdad take it whenever they need. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Theres nothing normal about this OP. The doctor in the hospital decided I was just a drug seeker. if something is destroyed or someone gets hurt (regardless of intention) then it is not a prank. So according to your family, I (a woman) am a man cause I can fix tires, cause obviously that's a manly man thing and not just a question of interests and acquired skills? What happens when they want to start testing the manliness of a child and start with these pranks? Last time I bought a full set of tires I spent about ~$800. Or the time they slashed his tired??? Your family is really toxic. The man loves you but hes at risk of death and financial hardship being associated with you as long as your family is involved. An inhaler is necessary medical equipment your fiance needs, not an accessory because he's "soft". I never got the impression OP wasnt supportive of the fianc. And stick up for your fianc. So no harm in going the legal route. # redditAITA #redditgermaphobe #entitledpeople 0:00 Intro 0:40 Story 1 Hiding lifesaving medicine? Cut them off completely and keep them as far away as possible. I think you all let it go to far before you stood up for him. It doesn't look dangerous to them when you're wheezing from an attack. These aren't "tests", this is your family being major fucking AHs. Yes. That fucking crosses a line. lol they have lost respect for your fiance? Knowledge and wisdom are threatening to people with small minds. They deserve to be uninvited. Pranks and teasing are one thing. One of the few perks of being an adult, is choosing who stays in your life, and comes to your dinner table. He has had some health complications straight after and I feel like they blame me for this as well. She's not an asshole for being related to shitty people. I feel like the AH because I overreacted and probably couldve compromised for a day. I am assuming your fiance has been putting up with this out of respect for you and your family. It was adenocarcinoma and it was in his spine. They hid his inhaler???? If he wont take care of himself, make sure youre both prepared for the consequences. Hiding his inhaler could have landed your fianc in the hospital. Why has your fianc not filed a police report on these people? Also wtf will they put any potential Male children you might have through as well, under the pretence of helping then man up? Your mom is just as conditioned as you are/were. TBH, if I were your fianc, I'd probably end the relationship if you DONT go NC with them, because they're literally dangerous to him. They're immature little boys who believe they have to pretend to be tough so they don't get laughed at. Thats near abuse. NTA, and just go NC with the whole lot - even your mom, because she clearly supports this shit. Two times I haven't had any inhaler and started wheezing. Or things kids do not realizing how serious it can be. Only ones he were allowed to see where my grandparents. The notion that someone should be concerned about how much of a man your fiance is is just outrageous, and you should've tried to put an end to it at their first "prank". and our They specifically use the fact he went college as a way to look down on him, and most people who do that are the same ones who think colleges are brainwashing places that take in nice, innocent, religious, straight conservative teenagers that perfectly mimic thier parent's views and opinions, all to brainwash them into being gay atheist liberals who might even have black or gay friends or worse, gasp even transgender friends. Its not just bullying anymore! Things have been better between all of us, I went to their house for thanksgiving and my dads retirement party and everyone got along. INFO: how does your fianc feel? Exactly. They know when they have power and they are exploiting it as much as possible to make him miserable. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Today the victim is your fiance. OP, you need to absolutely stamp out your family's behaviour or risk losing a great guy who sounds as if he would go to hell and back for you. NTA wtf??? They dont like Tim. These aren't pranks. NTA. Frankly, who cares if they respect Tim, the question is, does Tim respect them. You suck too btw. If you dont draw a line in the sand their nasty toxic behaviour (so called pranks) will never end. NTA, this is taking toxic masculinity to another level. NTA they took the pranks way too far. They could of killed him. NTA for calling them out but you are TA for letting it continue this far. My only question was why havent you died on it sooner? She's from a family of AHs, and she's bordering on it herself for not doing a hard shut-down sooner. After the tire slashing I would have called the cops and gone NC. Well it's not like the asthma is real anyway, so why would he really need it? What if you had to get somewhere fast or had to get to work? NTA. Enough people in general for today. What if he had an asthma attack? NTA seriously don't let them come to the wedding this is disgusting behavior they are bullies. Exactly what she should tell them. For a joke that isn't even funny. Taking someone's enhaler can kill them. AITA for uninviting my dad from my graduation and telling him I never want to see him again? OP How do you not see that these people are psychopaths?! Not a prank. Doesn't make him soft, The men in your family are obviously deeply insecure, if they feel the need to hide someone's medicine so they can get one over on the "college kid". Cut them out of the wedding and your life. Your male family members sound like toxic sexist AH, who love bullying under the pretense of how manly they are. I literally freaked out because I definately want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn, after talking to my fiance I had no choice but to politely uninvite my stepdad and sending him an email stating why. Having to replace all four tires is no joke. NTA Sorry, you do NOT deserve to be treated like this. Live your life, be Happy, graduate, write on reddit, do whathever you want with YOUR Life. NTA. Id tell them since they suck so much at life they can sit at the house and play pranks on one another and if mommy wants to get involved, she can sit her ass at the house with them as well. Also it sounds like your mom is desensitised to it which is sad. They are all stupid creeps. I do wonder why he said yes to taking a trip with these dangerous people. Fast forward to my graduation. Because it sure as hell isn't Earth. I could definitely see these assholes trying to cover something like that up. Dont be surprised if Tim calls it off. Not slashing tires or stealing medication. Privacy Policy. It's not funny, it's messed up. Your family are not pranksters but criminals. Read this before contacting the mod team. Thats what Im thinking too especially since they all admit it. Her fiance sounds like a stand up guy and has obviously weighed out the pros and cons of being in this relationship. just an umbrella term or have multiple meanings. Who wants to be treated like that for the rest of their life? Your male family members sound like toxic sexist AH, who love bullying under the pretense of how manly they are. Sounds like a bunch of dumb hicks bullying a city boy. I'd tell your mom that you would be ashamed of your children if they acted like your dad. NTA for uninviting them to the wedding but you are huge AH for not shutting their antics down sooner and continuing to subject Tim to these bullies. How he didnt dip after that I just dont understand. NTA. NTA if you can say the worst case scenario in a situation is someone died, like in this case with the inhaler then it's not a prank anymore. Honestly that was pretty rude of her but unless her actions were specifically malicious I don't think she is the asshole NAH That's like no different than the people who don't believe in allergies feeding people allergens and almost killing them. Yea those are pranks. Now I'm not saying violence is the answer, but I wonder how they'd react if Tim resorted to violence. Guarantee hes hoping youre that kind of person, OP. Im glad you fell far enough from the family tree to speak your mind. Its way past any reasonable persons definition of acceptable and moved straight to harassment. What they did was incredibly stupid. There is no most likely about it. They need to massively apologize. NTA! I wouldn't. My husband races autocross, our tires are more expensive than I like to think. For more information, please see our This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. OP has to show Tim that she is on his side no matter what. My asthma is not that severe but Ive been there I really needed the inhaler. What about your future child if you have a boy? Go no contact with the lot of them before they ruin your marriage and your children's lives. Sounds like Tim is the only real man among them. It isn't easy to do; it isn't easy to learn when to do it. Frankly, who cares if they respect Tim, the question is, does Tim respect them? My family thinks I am the asshole because of how harshly I spoke to him, that i chose stepdad over him and that I broke his heart. I had an cousin die from cancer because he waited for the tumor that was visible to get so large and spread before getting to the doctor. From one person whos been through this to another, thank you for having the courage to step back and stop the cycle. Right? He could have died. Often time these kids grow up and explain that they behaved badly to get attention diverted from abuse of other people in the home. Also you are not ruining the relationship with your family. All they are doing is trying to determine if your fianc holds values like them or not. Hiding his medication as a prank is the lowest of the low. Those assholes would show up in their hunting gear and make everyone miserable. And they just showed you they've no idea where the line between pranks and fatal consequences is. Ask them how they would like mug shots and restraining orders and if THOSE, decorating your guest sign in table, would increase their respect for you as a couple. It's a crime. I'm on the hope the stepdad pulls his money out of her wedding train too. They owe the both of you a bit apology but the trust is broken. I was thinking that no way in hell I would let that man go alone into the woods with these chuckleheads for 3 minutes let alone 3 days after listening to all the horrible things they said and done. NTA but that will change in a hurry if you ever expose your fianc to any of these people again. Also your dad he wouldnt respect Tim anymore if he had to apologise to Tim?? Good on you OP for leaving this toxic FOG and stand your ground. It's easy to spot the black things, harder to see the greys and off whites. I am angry for the fiance just from reading it. They hid his damn inhaler for 3 days. Put it on what respect can Tim, and YOU, possibly have for them after this? Those men are the picture perfect definition of toxic masculinity. Youve subjected him to a lot and youve let A LOT slide. If they even slashed in a way that could be plugged. Your fiance is a saint and by everything sacred in the world must he love you alot to stick with you! They will neither sit down nor shut up. Honestly.. ESH except for your fianc because you let them abuse him for so long. Hey, OP - imagine your wedding reception. I wouldve called it quits way before the inhaler incident. Your family already drove that wedge, not Timmy. Even bullying seems like too light of a word. Cut ties with everyone, save your poor poor fiance more pain then the abuse he already went trough for you, and apologize to him in behalf of your family. You are protecting your fiance from bullies. NTA, at first I thought a couple pranks like whoopee cushions could be funny but hiding his inhaler is absolutely not a prank. YTA for letting this happen to your fianc. I think it would be good for both of you. Because I'm sure as hell don't think it will stop at the wedding. First have the conversation with your fianc if he even wants them there. Side note!!! Pranks dont cost someone hundreds of dollars to fix or put someones life in danger. These men need help. Being in a good mood I went on a websearch to add some examples of that having happened. Your family were bullying, harassing, and assaulting your fiance, and until they understand the severity of their actions and apologize, I wouldn't ever allow myself to be alone with them again if I were him. "Garage" or "Auto Shop" work well too, but can be a bit ambiguous depending on context, as garage also means where you park your car in North America, whether it's at your house or the larger undergroud lots. It's a little weird to feel like this age group of men relies on women to negotiate between them in order to discuss momentary weekness. NTA but you allowed this to go on way too long. Of course youre NTA. Psychopaths. None of those pranks are funny. You are also TA for condoning their behavior up to this point. Not OP, but I've experienced something very similar. What if you had a son? You are NTA. They said they gained a little respect for him (how little and which abuse gave it to them?!) If my fianc dumps my to escape my fam I would hate myself for the rest of my days. Your family sounds toxic as fuck. Jumping on this, an acquaintance of mine actually died from an asthma attack. Cut those degenerates out of your life! Slashed tires and stolen inhalers aren't pranks, they're crimes. NTA - no matter what kind of person you are, no one should ever belittle you to "test" how you are. They shouldve had charges pressed on them for slashing his tires. Why have you let this carry on for so long?? They are astoundingly in the wrong and you are right to uninvite them. Do not just uninvite them from your wedding, uninvite them from your life. Literally willing to risk everything to be with you. NTA. (Already responded but can't resist a LOTR reference!). Vandalism of property. They kept calling him slow and soft but he has medical condition (asthma) but they think he's making 'excuses'. How exactly is he supposed to fix slashed tires himself other than buying new ones and replacing them. Got to admit that if I were Tim, Id run. Aita for uninviting my parents to my wedding; quad cortex neural dsp price; the forest fly command; python flush output; salvage car auction virginia; the book of psalms explained pdf; heineken hoodie; steel pipes suppliers in uae. I get that families can sort of haze newcomers, but slashing tires? Even Neanderthals are more caring and civilized than these AHs. So you definitely made the right decision. OP this is the path your male family members are headed down. Slashing tires isn't a prank. On their side it's just righteous indignation. People who want to help in your life are very rare, and should be appreciated, or even cherished. I mean I am in the process of suing a doctor for exactly this. And really if they do anything else criminal Id consider reporting them. Taking away someone inhaler is life threatening. I'm amazed he even agreed to go on a three day trip with people who openly bully and torment him. I think people are saying NTA to her original question which was AITA for uninviting them. Almost 4 years later and I still wish I didn't. You will be an asshole if you (how did you doormat of a mother call it?) You have a right to remove your father from your life for what he's done. Go no contact. NTA. Theyd call that future MIL bat-shit crazy & possibly homicidal. Internet Backs Woman Who Uninvited Dad, Brother From Wedding Over Prank By Samantha Berlin On 3/11/22 at 2:41 PM EST Culture Reddit Wedding Family Prank A soon-to-be bride went viral after. Personally I would go no contact with dad and let him lay in the bed he made. AITA? Guarantee they wouldn't find it funny if their tires were randomly slashed as a "prank.". The poor stepdad.. Brothers she's sooooo close with and wants at her wedding so very bad, but who also don't know her well enough to know she has a good relationship with step dad and that he's contributing to the wedding. So, he leaned into my husband's strengths, which was his extreme empathy and ability to navigate social situations and deal with mental health issues (husband is a social worker now, was studying to be one at the time). NTA and I can see this being a dealbreaker for Tim unless you go low to no contact. Not going to assume too much for OP's case, but in my case, the unwillingness to acknowledge the abuse just caused my siblings to peg me as ungrateful. I told my mom about getting ready for graduation, but that he was not invited. You know they will play a horrible prank during the ceremony. If I were Tim, I'd have been long gone when she didn't put a stop to it after the first round of "tests.". Ugh. It was infuriating and that was just a case of bad luck. I wouldn't be surprised if intentionally hiding a medical device is illegal too, it certainly should be. Why are these guys hanging up to keep OP from a healthy relationship? Its also not a prank if not everyone is laughing. Keep a lifeline out for your siblings, if they ever choose to break free of his gravity, but harbor no regrets for those family members who keeps themselves in his orbit. Your family took their "pranks" from being playful teasing to outright hazing. Exactly. Honestly I would elope and not tell them and start getting closer with his family and make distance with your family. I, on the other hand got to live with my stepdad more since I'm the youngest and we established a somewhat stable relationship. You should have prioritised your fiance earlier. LC or NC should be options too. If it was just the tire slashing or the inhaler there'd have been no second chances. YTA if you keep allowing this behavior against your guy. 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